~ The Healing Power of the Mind by Tulku Thondup
Confidence is like a crown jewel. When you wear it, you shine. Even a quietly confident person radiates authority and inspires trust. Confidence is supremely important when it comes to creating new behaviors, attaining goals and maintaining successful outcomes. When confidence appears to be lost or missing, there can be a domino effect. What happens to self-esteem, enthusiasm, contentment, courage and fortitude when confidence is missing?
When you begin fertility treatments it's important to have confidence in your team of health practitioners and your body's ability to cooperate. Sometimes a woman who has been highly successful in other areas of life feels betrayed by her body when pregnancy and birth do not happen at the time she feels ready to become a mother. Women who have no obvious medical issues preventing pregnancy can lose faith in their ability to conceive when, month after month, menstruation occurs rather than conception. Confidence needs to be restored.
Confidence is also essential in patients preparing for surgery, clients wanting to give up addictive substances and behaviors, people who have been laid off in a tight job market, and ex-lovers feeling insecure due to separation and loss. Truly, we can all use a bit more confidence every now and then, but especially at those pivotal times in life when changes in our bodies, careers and relationships leave us feeling doubt and pain.
Where does confidence come from? For some people it seems as much an inherited trait as the color of their eyes. Even if they lose a little at times, it doesn't stop them. They know what to do to get it back. In other people confidence lies hidden in the shadows of negative thoughts and feelings of unworthiness, guilt, doubt and fear. It needs to be coaxed back into the light. In such cases it may take a little longer for confidence to emerge, but HYPNOSIS is a great facilitator and will make it happen sooner rather than later. There are many techniques a hypnotist has at her disposal to help a client experience confidence in any area of life.
One way in which a client can benefit is by tapping into a past life during hypnosis. Here is one example. A client struggling with issues of low self-esteem felt unable to 'stand in her power.' In trance, she experienced herself as a sheriff in the Old West -- a very, very tall man wearing a shiny silver star. "I am a man of stature!" she exclaimed, and went on to describe what it felt like to be be a tower of strength and a person of great social standing in the community. Because she was able to step into that experience fully, at the end of the session her whole bearing had shifted from the slump of depression to an open, relaxed, confident stance. By using all her senses to vividly recall feelings of empowerment in that lifetime, she was able to carry them forward in her present life, which gave a huge boost to her confidence.
When we keep reinforcing positive experiences our perceptions begin to change. The half-empty glass becomes half-full. We discover that we are not who we thought we were. One experience of confidence is not usually enough to change an old, entrenched pattern. However, it is enough to shift our awareness and demonstrate unequivocally that we have tremendous inner resources and change is possible. We can learn with HYPNOSIS how to make our mind our friend, how to see the positive intention in negative behaviors, how to work with our feelings, and how to tap into our innate goodness and love. We can stop struggling and start dancing, moving through life with confidence, grace and poise.